To be human is to be complex.
Yet our existence is often defined by duality.
Space and Time. Dark and Light. Old and New. Birth and Death. Man and Woman. Good and Bad. Wrong and Right. Yes and No. This or That…
We are not, however, inherently defined by an all or nothing way of being.
We are not defined by either-or. We can be both+and. Or neither. Or more of one and less of the other. Or something altogether different, or redefined.
The essential pattern of duality is simple, and simplicity can be powerful. But to address the challenges humankind has created for itself, we need to physically, emotionally, and mentally actualize complexity. We need to live into patterns of being that can allow for paradox, engage conflict, hold chaos. All within the grace of a Greater Order Design.
It is, perhaps, ironic then that the choice is a simple one:
Either we de-evolve into a more simplistic level of awareness extending from yes or no, right or wrong, us or them ways of being,
Or we re-evolve into a more complex level of awareness rooted in multi-perspective, dynamically adaptive, human family (complete with crazy uncles) ways of being.
Here and now, there is no place and no time for maybe, neutral, middle ground ways of being. To choose nothing is to commit to our current trajectory.
Of course, the choice to embrace greater complexity can feel threatening. There is the potential for us to lose ourselves in the bigger picture. From a superordinate perspective, our individual joys and pains, hopes and fears, histories and futures, are relatively insignificant. It is as if we must be willing to sacrifice our sense of self (who we are, what we do, how we live, why we love) for the sake of others who might be more than willing to literally sacrifice us for their own purposes.
At least that is how it may seem from an either-or perspective.
To choose to actively participate in a greater complexity of being requires that we must be both whole and part of a greater whole — that we must be the whole of our fullest, individual selves and part of a more inclusive, collective identity. That we must exist with the conflict of simple dualities while also finding ways to redefine and live beyond them.
However, it is not enough to only seek complexity in something greater than ourselves. We must also seek complexity within the deeper parts of ourselves. In that seeking, we may come to understand the human sense of self as an emergent phenomena and realize how the unique biological, social, and psychological patterns of our lives give rise to the universe of stories that exists within each of us. We may come to recognize our own complexity and, in doing so, come to recognize the complexity of each other.
That is, we may learn to truly reckon with what it means to be human.